Posted on Thursday, 1st January 2009 by Maritzia

I’m sitting here, on the cusp of the new year, and it’s time to look back at the year we leave behind.  In many ways, it was quite a hard year.  We finished Mark’s immigration, we got married, we dealt with Amber’s paralysis and Jordan’s aging.  I was laid off for the 2nd time in two years, and spent almost 3 months unemployed.  And while I enjoy the job I have, it isn’t ideal in pay and location.  So it’s been a year of struggles.

But it’s also been a year of great happiness.  We found the most lovely woman to officiate at our wedding, and the whole ceremony was such a wonderful expression of who we are and what our relationship is about.  We had our family all around us (including our pets), and it was a lovely time to renew our love for and commitment to each other.  It was everything we dreamed it could be.

At this time last year, I did a tarot reading for the year.  It’s interesting to look back now at the cards I drew and how they’ve played out during the year.

The Card for the Year: The Star

The star is a positive card for what was, over all, a positive year.  Always, when things seemed darkest, hope shined through and in the end everything worked out.  When I was laid off, I found another job.  When the money wasn’t enough, I got a raise.  When Amber hurt her back, our vet was wonderful and encouraging, and we discovered that even if she hadn’t gotten better, we more than have it in us to care for a special needs pet.  Amber was blessed with an almost total recovery, but at least we aren’t afraid if it happens again.  We know what to do and how to do it, and we know we can handle whatever comes.

The Month Cards

1. January was the King of Wands – He’s about inspiration and ideas, motivation to move forward, find your passion, and take charge.  This was the height of the time I was working in foster care, and both Mark and I hoped we would be able to move into the work full time.  Working with at-risk youth is such demanding, but can be such rewarding, work.
2. February was the Princess of Hearts (aka Page of Cups) – Ahhh…the cups…the suit of emotions.  And the Page is the very emotional one.  And it was an emotional month.  I was accused at work of doing something underhanded (which I didn’t do), and it was made clear to me that we would not be allowed to continue in foster care.  My heart was truly broken.  I was sad and angry and hurt.
3. March was the Ten of Pentacles – The Tens are completion cards, the ultimate, transcendant completion, and the pentacles are an earth sign dealing with physical and financial matters.  While our finances went down this month without the foster care work, this is when I was inspired to start my most recent blog, Administrative Arts, which I believe is going to be my most successful one.  It hasn’t brought financial security yet, but it is definitely progressing well, and I’m excited for the future with it.
4. April was the Tenof Wands – The Ten of Wands is about struggle, ultimate struggle with that which consumes you.  This was a really hard month.  Finances became really bad, I was struggling with both work and the blog, still feeling angry and sad and hurt about work issues.  Yes, a really bad month.
5. May was the Four of Swords – A time of relief after strife.  And May was that.  I started letting go some of my anger and pain from work.  And Mark’s immigration was moving forward, so we started planning the wedding.  It was a good month.  A peaceful month.  It was some down time that I desperately needed.
6. June was Nine of Hearts (aka Nine of Cups) – Like the tens, the nines are completion cards.  With the cups emphasis on emotion and relationships, this is a great card.  Wishes will come true, relationships will reach a pinnacle.  This month we received Mark’s fiancee visa, and we could finally start concrete plans for the wedding.  This really was a great month.
7. July was The Hanged Man – A time of suspension and sacrifice, of making choices.  We were married on the 5th, and on the 6th, Amber hurt her back and was paralyzed.  Time pretty much stood still for us while we took care of her.  Worries about work, immigration, and money were put aside.  We just took care of Amber.  In return, though, we received great insight that we can do whatever is necessary to take care of our babies.  No challenge was too much where they are concerned.  And the puppies learned that as well.  They know they’ll be taken care of no matter what.
8. August was the Four of Hearts (aka Four of Cups) – HAHAHAHA….stagnant relationships….that’s funny.  As Amber improved, I was getting very dissatisfied with my job.  I was looking constantly for something else.  Fate took a hand, though, and I got laid off.  So much for stagnation.
9. September was the Ten of Swords – Yes, an untimely, violent end.  Hitting rock bottom.  I was laid off with no warning, lost my health insurance, was getting no replies to my many resumes.  Yes, things did indeed look quite black this month.  At the same time, though, it really wasn’t that bad, because I was away from that awful job.  In some ways, it was a relief.  I felt like the world was opening up before me.
10. October was The Hermit – A time of introspection as well as searching.  It describes October well.  I was spending a great deal of time thinking about not just employment, but what I really wanted to achieve.  Did I want to keep doing the same things I’ve always done or branch out into something new.  This month was about finding opportunities, which I eventually did.  I started my new job this month.
11. November was the Ace of Hearts (aka Ace of Cups) – A new beginning with love, joy, and compassion exultant.  Yes, Barack Obama was elected President of the United States of America.  We have had much exultation and excitement and hope.  Almost two months later, and I’m still filled with hope and excitement, despite some setbacks (can you say Rick Warren?).
12. December was The Devil – A card of temptation and excess.  The Devil is a card of warning.  Don’t fall back into habitual negative behaviors.  If you want to reach the pinnacles, you must move forward, embrace new ways, shed inhibitions as well as excesses (for inhibitions can be as excessive as any addiction when taken to an extreme).  This month I let go of the idea of material security.  I’ve always been a very habitual person who craved normality and security.  I would stay in a job I abhorred rather than move to find something less secure but more satisfying.  This month was about letting go of those things that chained me down and moving forward with the goals of what I really wanted in life.

All in all, 2008 was a difficult but very satisfying year.  I hope 2009 is a happy and prosperous year for us all.  Blessings, everyone.

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Posted on Monday, 29th December 2008 by Maritzia

Today’s Card: Page of Wands

This is a propitious card for me to draw today.  The Wands suit is about your passion, career, and/or creative endeavors.  The Page, of course, is a messenger.  And today I’ve been working on a new creative pursuit.  It’s an idea I had a while back, but yesterday I just really got inspired to start forward with it.  I’ll announce it here as soon as I get it off the ground.

This card is a good indicator for success for this endeavor.

Goddess Card: Lakshmi

Lashmi is a Hindu Goddess who brings abundance to those who call for her help.  These two cards together seem to be telling me to stop worrying and let good come to me.  My endeavors will pay off in the end.

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Posted on Monday, 29th December 2008 by Maritzia

Last week I talked about my belief that we each have a path to follow in life.  This week, I’d like to explore the idea of how we discern what is true.  To start talking about finding truth, though, I must first give a bit of background information about my own belief systems.

During my life, my belief systems have evolved quite a bit.  I don’t like to say my beliefs have changed.  It’s more that, as I have grown older, as I have experienced more of life, I have gained a greater understanding of what I believe to be truth.

I was raised Southern Baptist, but as I became a teenager, I questioned more and more the tenets of that religion.  While it worked for many people I knew, for me there were too many questions, and I was left with a constant feeling of first restlessness, and later anger.  For me, there was too much rigidity, too many admonitions not to ask questions.  Of course, being the inquisitive person I was, being told not to ask questions just made me more frustrated and more angry.  I knew there was something more, but at that point in my life, I didn’t even know how to reach out and look for it.  Let’s face it, I lived in the middle of the bible belt and the internet didn’t even exist yet.

In the ’80s, during college, I became interested in Catholicism.  In so many ways, it was the very opposite of the teachings of my childhood.  They didn’t hold with the very strict interpretation of the bible that Southern Baptists tend to hold.  Questioning and spiritual exploration seemed to be not only tolerated, but encouraged.  This was the Post Vatican II American Church.  Spiritual exploration, differing forms of prayer, differing ideas of theology were rampant.  It called to the intellectual side of my soul!

And then there was the ritual.  While many Catholics my age were actually looking for the more emotional experiences of the type of church of my childhood, I was seeking the more traditional rituals of the Church.  Before then, I had never really experienced formal ritual (although I’ll argue that in their way, the evangelical churches are as ritualized as the Catholic).  It was in ritual that I found the real homecoming for my soul. Here is where I found that something that I had wanted but couldn’t name.  Ritual is where my soul found freedom and energy.

I remained Catholic for over 20 years, even as my belief systems continued to evolve, becoming more Pagan as time passed.  I must admit that even today, after several years as an unrepentant Pagan, I still have a penchant for the Mass and the other rituals of the Catholic Church.  They are what nurtured my soul for many years.

Over time, however, the Catholic Church started pulling back.  The Pre-Vatican II rigidity started creeping back into the American church.  Truthfully, it had already started at the time I joined the Church, but it was a while before I started seeing it.  I was comfortable for many years knowing that some of my core beliefs were not exactly in agreement with the Church hierarchy.  But as time passed, I became less and less comfortable with the direction the Church was taking, and the election of Cardinal Ratzinger as Pope was the last straw for me.  As much as I loved parts of the Church (and still do), I could no longer call myself Catholic.

By this time I was already quite pagan in many of my beliefs, so it didn’t take much of a push to pull me over the edge to claiming my Pagan beliefs, and in the last few years I have embraced my identity as a witch and reveled in the opportunity to expand my concept of the divine.

Now that I’ve covered the “what” of my religious past, in my next post in this series, I’ll talk in more detail about they
whys and hows of the evolution of my beliefs.  I hope you’ll stick around and share some of your own religious background.

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Posted on Friday, 26th December 2008 by Maritzia

photo credit: dno1967

I’ve written several times on this blog about Fat Acceptance.  Really, though, what I should be talking about is body acceptance.  We talk about FA simply because the privileged position here is that of thinness.  But that is only because society’s current definition of beauty is linked so strongly to being thin.

When we talk about the whole issue of beauty, what we are really talking about is sexual attractiveness.  Why is one person considered to be sexually attractive while another person is not.  I know there are those of you out there who will argue that sexual attraction is innate and genetic.  It’s driven by the need to produce stronger offspring with a greater chance of survival.  I’m afraid I would have to disagree with this stance.

While this may be the case in animals, humans have evolved long past a simply biological view of sexual attractiveness.  The reason I say this is because our definition of beauty changes over time.  In the early 20th century, women were preferred to be rather plump (200 pounds was nothing then), preferred faces were generally longer with a longer jawline.  Over time, however, we saw a preference for thinness develop.  Jaw lines shrank as a preference for shorter jaw lines occurred (hence the need for so many of us to have our wisdom teeth removed).  Preference for hair colors change as fashions change.  Let’s face it, what we humans consider sexually attractive has a great deal to do with what our society currently tells us should be attractive.

And if that’s the case, why can’t we change what society has to say?  Why can’t we, as a society, tell our children that sexual attraction doesn’t have to be wrapped up in the physical body?  Why can’t we see all bodies as having equal ability to be sexually attractive.  I mean, I know some people out there are sexually attracted to fat people.  Some people are sexually attracted to power, some to humor.  And that’s great.  We’re all different people and have different ideas of what is attractive.  Why can’t we celebrate that ideal?  That everyone can be seen as sexually attractive instead of trying to force people into an almost unattainable mold (which truly is unattainable for the vast majority of people).  Why don’t we see a variety of body sizes and shapes in fashion magazines, a variety of faces and shapes and colors.  Why don’t we as consumers demand that from the magazines that we buy?

That is the challenge that I give to all of you reading this (yes, all 5 of you).  Think about the magazines that you read.  Do they feature a diverse population in their models, both in race, features, and body type?  Do they feature diet recommendations in every issue (and usually emblazoned in headlines on the front page?  If they don’t meet your definition of beauty, what are you going to do about it?  Do all of us a favor, especially your children.  Contact those magazines that you read, and ask them to make a difference in our world.  Ask them to use variety in their models.  Ask them to not constantly run stories about dieting.  Ask them to stop fueling eating disorders.  Ask them to care.

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Posted on Thursday, 25th December 2008 by Maritzia

I was reading a book this morning, and one of the heroines was asked, “Would you be as happy without him?”  The question made me stop and think about my own path, and how I came to be where I am, and that being on this path, while hard, has brought to me a level of happiness I never thought possible.

I’ve talked before about my belief that we are led in our lives along a specific path.  Not that you can’t be happy and content off of that path, but that we are most happy, most fulfilled when we follow the intended path for our lives.

It’s a theme that you’ll find in many religions.  Whether you believe that you are led by your all-knowing creator, you believe that you chose your path in the time between lives, or you believe you are led by a benign deity, the idea of having a path in life that we follow is a common one.  It’s one that I think I have always instinctively believed in.

And following my path over the years has led me to believe even more strongly in this idea.  For many years I had a strong calling to religious life (becoming a nun or sister).  The calling was strong and real and I pursued it for almost 20 years.  I didn’t know why this calling was so strong, especially since it seemed there were obstacles everywhere I went.  But the calling was strong enough that I could not deny it and still live happily in my life.  Any time I moved away from the calling, I was–not unhappy, really–dissatisfied I guess is a good word for how I felt.

Eventually, of course, it was my pursuit of religious life that led me to my husband, Mark.  Everything in my pursuit of religious life led me neatly down the path to him.  And I’ve never been happier in my life.  As I said, it hasn’t been an easy life, but it’s been happy and fulfilling.  There are still challenges, and I still have a path to walk and discern, but so far, it’s a path I trust is right for me.

Spiritual discernment has always been a particular fascination of mine, and so I will be spending some time on it for the next couple of weeks.  There’s something about this season, a season of hope in darkness, of trust in the future, that makes me especially introspective.  I hope you’ll tune in for the discussion, because even more than looking at my own life discernment, I love hearing about the path of others and how they discern truth in their lives.

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Posted on Friday, 19th December 2008 by Maritzia

Like many Pagans in this country, I was formerly Christian (specifically Catholic).  And like many of us reformed Christians, I struggle with letting go of my cherished holiday traditions and substituting those more appropriate to my belief systems.

Many of my happiest memories from my childhood surround Christmas.  For me, though, most of those memories are non-religious ones, as my childhood was quite lacking in religious attendance.  Because of that, I find I can blend many of my favorite family traditions into my life as a Pagan.

The hardest thing for me, though, are Christmas carols.  I love music and I love to sing, and many Christmas songs are so nostalgic for me.  While some of my favorite songs are secular, I must confess that most are not.  And while a few of the religious songs can have alternate meanings that fit in with my Pagan beliefs, many just don’t.   I’m slowly adding some Yule and Solstice songs to my repertoire, but this time of year, you’ll still find many of the old Christian favorites playing on WinAmp. 

So, what are my favorite Christmas songs?  

1. Oh Holy Night – hard as hell to sing, but it’s music is so emotional.  It is definitely my all time favorite, and can bring tears to my eyes when sung really well.
2. Silent Night – how can you not love Silent Night?
3. I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas – I know…it’s a silly song, but I enjoy singing it so much!  If you’ve never heard it, google it and give it a listen.
4. The First Noel – another very evocative tune.  It’s probably my favorite one to sing.
5. Adeste Fidelis – I actually prefer the Latin version of Oh Come All Ye Faithful.  That’s the Catholic coming out.
6. Grandma Got Runover By a Reindeer – *blushes* I admit it…I love this song.
7. Blue Christmas – But only sung by Elvis.  No other will do.
8. Go Tell It On The Mountain – probably my 2nd favorite to sing.  Best if sung by a black gospel choir…seriously, if you’re going to sing it like an uptight Episcopalian, don’t bother.
9. I’ll Be Home for Christmas – because my Daddy loved it.  He was 20 years in the army and missed his home so badly the whole time.  It was his favorite Christmas song.
10. Jingle Bell Rock – I do love to have a rockin’ good time!

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Posted on Friday, 19th December 2008 by Maritzia

Today’s Card: Eight of Swords

Today, I specifically needed to make a decision about going up to White Rock tomorrow so Mark can get a refill on his blood pressure meds.  We’re supposed to get more snow tomorrow, a storm even worse then earlier in the week (6-15 inches they’re predicting — egad!).  But so far they aren’t predicting snow before early evening.

The card I pulled was the Eight of Swords.  In this card, a woman stands blindfolded with 8 swords around here.  There is an impression of being trapped.  But is she really trapped?  She can move away from the swords, she just doesn’t know it.  To me, this card is about self-knowledge.  Look at what’s around you and make a decision.  And I guess that’s what I need to do tomorrow.  Check the conditions and decide if we should move forward, or find another solution.  Either way, we aren’t trapped.  We have options.

Goddess Card: Yemanya

Yemanya is about opportunities.  Walk through the door that is open.  Take advantage of what is available to you. 

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Posted on Tuesday, 16th December 2008 by Maritzia

Today’s card is Temperence.

Temperence…I haven’t seen that card come up in a while.  Everything I’ve been getting lately has been about moving forward, working toward a reward.  Temperence is about moderation, about blending opposites, about not being too focused on one thing.  Balance the social life and time of solitude.  Balance work life with play.  Perhaps even combine work and play?  That’s a message that is suddenly resonating with me.  I tend to be a person who is all of one or the other, but I’ve never really done any kind of work that was like play to me.

My goals lately have been to get away from the secretarial field.  While I’m really good at the work, it’s not work that I particularly enjoy.  I don’t particularly dislike it either.  It just is.  I’m working at the moment in tech work, which I really do enjoy.  I’d like to work more towards doing tech work permanently.  I’ve been thinking a lot about that lately.  I’m thinking that I need to learn CSS.  I already know a bit from working with my WordPress blogs.  If I could learn to work with CSS and maybe php well, then I would be quite employable in the tech/design field.

Today’s Goddess Card is Bast

Bast is about independence.  Taking time for solitude.  Making your own decisions.  She fits well with Temperence again.  While I can ask for advice from here to the end of eternity, nothing will happen unless I make a decision to make it happen.  Essentially, it’s up to me if I want to move my career in a different direction.

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Posted on Friday, 12th December 2008 by Maritzia

Today’s Card is the 9 of Pentacles.

This is quite an auspicious card.  The 9 of Pentacles (also called the 9 of Coins in some decks) is, like all 9′s, a card of fulfillment.  Being an Earth card, that fulfillment is usually in the material world.  Often it indicates a financial windfall or success in a venture.  Some interpret it to mean success in a venture after a period of hard work.  Let’s keep our collective fingers crossed that financial success is on it’s way for me.

It could, also, however, indicate a promotion or salary increase at work.  I just found out Wednesday that I was getting a $2 raise, so it could also be referring to that, but that interpretation doesn’t really feel right to me.  When I pulled the cards, I was concentrating more on the full moon, the weather, and what the night and weekend will hold.  I think I’ll just keep this card in the back of my mind as the weekend progresses to see where it might lead.

Goddess Card: Mawu

Today’s Goddess Card is Mawu.  Mawu is a West African Mood Goddess who is beleived to have created all life.  Mawu ensures that needs are abundantly supplied without causing harm to the world. This card often refers to environmentalism.  My husband and I have been working hard to save on utilities this winter.  We’ve kept the central heat off for the most part, relying on two small space heaters to provide heat as needed.  We have to turn the heating unit on this weekend because of a hard freeze, but we will keep it at a minimum temp to keep the pipes from freezing.  My intuition tells me that we will have all we need over this wintry weekend without needing to go to extremes.

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Posted on Wednesday, 10th December 2008 by Maritzia

Today’s card is The Star.  The Star is a card of hope.  Improvement may not be instantaneous, but it is coming somewhere down the road.  The help you need will appear.

This is an appropriate card for today.  I talked to the rep with the contracting company I work with, and he’s going to be able to get me another $2-$3 an hour to make up for the lack of benefits in my current placement.  The company they subcontracted with set me up as an independent contractor, which was not what they were supposed to do, so they essentially were pocketing the difference they were being paid.  I talked to my rep, and he’s working with his contracting folks to get me some more money until their contract period with the subcontractor is over.  They can then make me an employee of theirs.  In the meantime, I get more money to make up for some of my losses through self-employment taxes and lack of health insurance.

The Goddess card today, Vesta, goes along with The Star.  Vesta is the Goddess of home and hearth, and is generally interpreted to mean a change in home life.  Well, the extra money will definitely mean a change in home life.  It will relieve some stress and take away some of the financial worries.  I can stop scanning Craigs List looking for a cheaper place to live.

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